I don't know where to start.
I know it has been a seriously long time since I've blogged.
Until tonight it has also been a really long time since I talked to my parents or my sister Debbie.
I don't know where I am mentally.
On one hand I feel better than I've felt in a long, long time. I feel like me. I feel happy and confident and not depressed.
You would think that's a good thing.
But the days that I feel the best....I feel the worst.
Doesn't make sense, does it?
Christmas was great. For Christmas I planned a series of trips for the family. Link got a trip to Dublin with me in January. Hannah got a trip to Paris and London with me in February. Jake got a trip with the whole family to Niagara Falls in April.
I was happy. I was excited for our travels. I had actually paid for almost all of Christmas with the debit card and not the credit card.
And yet.
I cut.
I cut myself on Christmas. Two long slashes along my arm.
Why?
I don't know.
It had been one of the happiest days I've had in a long time.
But I did.
And then a few days later I was curled up in the fetal position afraid to take care of my kids while Link was at work.
Then New Years Eve came along.
Once again, it was a good day. We had Lincoln's brother and sister-in-law over. There was good food, a few drinks, and a fun time playing cards.
But the night ended in tears, a lot of cutting, and me in the
treehouse by myself praying to a God I don't necessarily believe in.
I think about this blog all the time.
I have notes all over my desk about funny conversations that I've had with the kids. About things that are happening at work or at home.
And yet, I don't care.
I don't want to blog.
For a long time this blog was very enjoyable for me. I loved the fact that it's a diary of my kids' childhood.
And maybe that's why right now I don't want to record what is happening.
I'm happy and yet apparently I'm miserable. Maybe
subconsciously I don't want to record what is happening in my life right now.
If I have learned nothing else over the past year, I've learned that depression is not something you can control or even understand.
And apparently it's not something I can conquer.
At least not yet. But I'm going to keep trying.
So, what does this have to do with Aunt Lorraine?
I don't know.
I was reading a book tonight and it made me think of her. How she lives in a very, very, VERY small town in Iowa and lives a fairly simple life with Uncle Bob. She is always warm and welcoming and even if you drop by without a moment's notice she'll lay out a spread of food like she has been expecting your visit for months.
She
symbolizes home. And comfort. And family.
And whatever it was that I was reading earlier that triggered my memories of her got me to blog tonight about my problems.
I guess, in that way, she still
symbolizes home, and comfort, and family.
And that's what I need to hold onto.